“Bad Things Happen to Good People” is a catchphrase that I realized I had been conditioned by society and accepted as an unavoidable circumstance of existence. Like most things in the Matrix, it serves to normalize powerlessness and trap us in the drama triangle of victim-rescuer-persecutor.
“Things Happen to People” is the only part of that statement that is true. The label of good and bad is a subjective judgment that cuts us off from seeing the larger meaning in the events of our life. The subjectivity of our perspective is what blinds us to the obvious.
Many “things” happen that feel comfortable and enjoyable because they are consistent with our limited objectives, and historically conditioned comfort zones. We experience them, celebrate, share them on social media and then continue with the unexamined patterns of life that represent the unspoken unease we are collectively experiencing. Nothing changes from these events. Life continues with the predictable future being a function of the known past.
Fewer “things” happen that cause intense suffering and pain. These experiences provide a divine gateway to a state of Humility from which we can honestly and rigorously examine our life… the only state from which the surrender, acceptance and integration of our limitations can take place. This is the realm of transformation, awakening and the emergence of Self. These are the events that start the journey into the unknown.
Which of these “things” is “good” and which is “bad”?
“The greatest progress in life is when you know your limitations, and then you have the courage to drop them” – Yogi Bhajan
We are Beings of infinite creative potential and sometimes all we need to do to tap into this, is to change our perspective a tiny amount.
In Love, Forgiveness and Service